One of Us Is a Fantastic Spouse (Hint, It’s Me)
By Lisa Lakey
I was so proud of myself.
On my day off, I had managed to clean most of the house, the kids were in great moods, and the air was thick with the savory aroma of the dinner I had prepared. Surely, by the end of the day I’d at least be getting a certificate for my wifely achievements.
But I’d have to hold off on the speech I’d prepared. Because my dear husband meandered through the door at 6:00, blaring the news of his day. He, too, had been super-productive and awesome.
Then he planted a kiss on my cheek as he walked by to go clean up before dinner.
Don’t get me wrong, I was proud of my handsome hubby. But …
What about me?!
Ever feel that way? I’m a fairly introverted person, so needing heaps of attention and recognition doesn’t plague me often. Except when it comes to my spouse.
Especially when I’m insecure, I need to be reassured my hubby still thinks I’m worth having around.
And when I don’t hear those words of affirmation? I feel slighted. I start puffing myself up to something I’m definitely not being in that moment—a fantastic (and maybe superior) spouse.
Second Corinthians 12:9 reminds me, ”But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”
On the days where I screw everything up, I have to remind myself my worth doesn’t fade with my mistakes.
But on my better days? I have to remind myself my worth isn’t increased with my deeds.
And thankfully, my husband forgives my mistakes, too. Like when I depend too much on his affirmation.
And when I think a little too highly of myself.
The good stuff: When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom. (Proverbs 11:2)
Action points: Instead of thinking of all the things you do for your spouse today, list two things they do to serve you selflessly. Make a point to thank them for it.
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